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Lori Adelfio - President

At The Breast Cancer 3 Day

Lori Adelfio & Chris Resnick

Lori Adelfio & Michele Miley

Where do I begin?

I guess I’ll begin at the beginning.  In August of 2000, my sister, Christine, was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 35 years old. I will never forget, days after the lumpectomy, receiving the call from my sister saying “It’s cancer”. I felt as though someone punched me in the stomach because I lost the air to speak. I recovered enough to respond and say, “Ok, so how do we fight this?” because there was no other option other than fighting it. I have often thought many times, as I look back on those months at the beginning of all of this, that perhaps my sister had a strength that had never been shown to anyone before; including herself. I hung up the phone and all that was running through my head was “Oh my God, my sister has cancer. She is my 35 year old sister with a husband and two little girls and she has breast cancer.” It scared me. It scared me because the only other experience I’ve ever had with breast cancer was with my friend Michele’s mother, Susan. I remember Susan as a kind and wonderful woman with a terrific sense of humor who seemed as though her mastectomy didn’t faze her. I’m sure it did, but she never let on. She was my friend’s mom. She was my friend’s really COOL mom who was a beautiful spirit on this earth. She succumbed to the disease in October 30, 1984 and became a beautiful spirit not of this earth. It was 21.5 years ago in October - Breast Cancer Awareness Month - but I don’t think there was such a thing back then.

When Christine was diagnosed, my parents were there for a visit and subsequently stayed through the months afterward. She had her mastectomy, reconstruction and was gearing up for her first rounds of chemotherapy, but nothing was going to get her down. She planned and attended her daughters 6th birthday party and walked five miles, yes FIVE miles, participating in her first “Making Strides Against Breast Cancer” event benefiting The American Cancer Society. A pretty courageous venture considering she was post-operative for only a few weeks. With my parents help, my sister recovered from the surgical portion of her treatment and was undergoing chemotherapy. She shopped for Christmas gifts, put up her Christmas tree and it seemed as if she prepared for the holidays as though the preceding months had never happened. She shaved her head, bought a beautiful wig and plenty of eyebrow pencils.

When Spring arrived, so did several weeks of radiation therapy combined with her chemotherapy. Then a recurrence. Her original diagnosis was Infiltrating Intraductal Carcinoma. In the Spring/Summer of 2001, she was diagnosed I.B.C. Inflammatory Breast Cancer. It was a hard blow and quite frightening considering she “had done everything right.”

Through out the past 5+ years, I’ve tried to be a comfort and be the source for a laugh when she’s “sick and tired of being sick and tired.” To be her cheerleader when her arm, swollen from Lymphadema, hurts her so much she doesn’t know what to do with herself. Let me tell you why she never ceases to amaze me though. For the past five years, she has been confronted with her own mortality and yet she moves through her life as though it isn’t really happening. She works so hard not to let her illness affect her daughters. She takes them to Girl Scouts, piano lessons, soccer, swim lessons, basketball, drama club and the list exhaustingly goes on. She bakes classroom birthday cupcakes for each of her daughters’ birthdays, makes their Halloween costumes and helps to make costumes needed for drama club. She makes sure that each of her girls has two birthday parties; one to invite all of their friends and another one for the family. She volunteers for a program at the elementary school called “Project Bookworm” which helps children who are having a harder time learning to read. I guess all of the above helps ME to move through MY life as though she doesn’t have breast cancer.

It took about a year before I started asking questions of myself. Do I get tested for the genetic markers for breast cancer? What does it mean if I have the markers? Since the markers being present doesn’t necessarily mean I will get breast cancer, do I want to know if I have these genes running through my body? At first, I felt guilty that I was thinking of myself while my sister was fighting the disease, almost selfish. However, as I read all that I possibly could process about this disease, I did have to wonder, what about my predication? To this day, I still wrestle with that question. Currently, I have an unexplained lump that has been labeled “nothing” by doctors, so I’m asking myself the question again. What about my predication? I suppose even 5 years later, the feelings of selfishness arise, but now, reality overrules the idea that someone could be selfish in such matters as health. I needed to channel my anxiety and I wanted to take a stand against breast cancer, but how? I  remembered talking to my sister about the breast cancer resource center she went to in New Jersey and I wondered why there wasn’t one here in St. Augustine, FL. I thought if I couldn’t affect change in New Jersey, why not affect change in St. Augustine? In August of 2003, my sister and I formed a foundation called “Committed To A Cure, ‘partners in hope’ ”. We are hoping that this foundation can reach out into the community and help those who are affected by breast cancer as well as affecting the medical community and health insurance companies to cover new tests that will aid in early detection. We have goals for this foundation and our hope is that we achieve those goals and soar ever higher working toward a cure for this devastating disease. We are a Non-Profit organization and we will keep our supporters informed of the progress of this foundation.

Wishes for good health,

Lori Adelfio

Christine Resnick - Vice President

May David - Treasurer

John David - Special Events Coordinator

 

 

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